The last time I wrote, things were pretty status quo for Jacob. We have since gotten a German Manny and he has been living with us since May. I wish I could say that he is amazing, but let's just go with the story from here.
I took my time off for the 6 months that I needed to get my son and myseld squared away. I came back to work refreshed and ready to fight crime again. The new nanny came and the first few weeks were pretty good. And then, I started to notice how extremely lazy he was. It was like he needed to be on the phone calling someone or playing some game all the time, and he wouldn't cook or clean anything. Then he comes to me and asks me if I could make sure that the cats and the dog do not come downstairs to "his" area because he doesn't like animal hair. WHAT? Seriously? So, I oblige him becuase I know it must be hard for him to be in another country with strange people, so ok. I moved the cat litter boxes to the upstairs bathroom, and make sure that the kids do not go downstairs and play, and buy him a brand new dresser, and nightstand and a lamp and some rugs to make him feel more comfortable.
Fast forward to a month ago, and I am at work. He messages me, and says that things are out of hand at home and if I could come home and deal with it. IM AT WORK. I said I cannot, and he asked me if I could talk to Jacob because he wasn't listening to him. Ok, so I do. Jacob can be very difficult at times and we all know that. A few days later, Jake and Bug are at the park and the neighbourhood bully decides it would be a good idea to chase both of my kids around and then whip my daughter in his legs with a large stick. Well, my super shy and quiet daughter decided to protect herself and her little brother, and kicked the bully right in the FACE!!! Holy man, I was like WHOA. So they both come home crying, and I was getting ready to go to bed for day shift the next day. I ended up having to call my own Police Department about make a damn report for this bully. I don't really know if I like my neighbourhood after that. So, the report goes in, and now this kid has a start to a long and lenghty battle with my department. One issue, but yet so many more when I am at work.
A few days later, Jacob has a complete and total meltdown, and trashes his bedroom, along with all of his toys, and then throws some toys at the nanny, breaking his glasses, and then decides that he is going to kill himself. So he takes the screen off of the window, and opens it, climbs into it, and swings his legs out of the window, and tells the nanny hes going to kill himself. The nanny freaks out and calls me so I have to, not only do my job, but also talk my 7 year old off of the preverbial ledge so he wont throw himself off of the window. Who is watching my child!??? I race home and speak to Jake, who by this point doesn't even remember why he mad was in the first place. My heart was beating so hard out of my chest and I was so angry, and I asked the nanny what was happening, his answer was? He didn't know why he was so mad.
OH MY GOD. Really?????
Coupled with the fact that Jacob has tried twice more to throw himself out of the window while I was at work, and the fact that I came home from work once and the kids were at a park they are not allowed at and the nanny is downstairs sleeping, I had just about enough of this guy. '
Enter nasty neighbour issue. My elderly neighbour, who I have never had any issues with before this summer, has started to constantly complain about my dog, and my children. HOLY MAN, when it rains it pours. So, elderly nasty neighbour or ENN for short, called my landlord and complained to him that my dog was pooping on her lawn. We have a shared front lawn, and I have my hakf and she has hers. Well, we clean up after our dog. All the time. She complained to him, and then he calls me, (DID I mention that I was sleeping from afternoon shift at this point???) and he goes off about the issues. I told him she never came to me to speak to me about things and that she even yelled at not only my kids, but my mother and my nanny all in one weekend. She's angry and crusty. So my landlord tells me to avoid her and not to let the dog poop on the lawn. well, Sherlock. How am I supposed to let my dog out the backyard when I have to go downstairs to the "non animal hair allowed area" and let my dog go to the washroom???? This is maddening now. I have always had this issue with the basement but now its even worse with ENN stupidty and the nanny being a baby.
GOOD LORD. I wanna scream.
I ignore the ENN, and her crusty daughter. They glare at me anytime we are outside with the kids, and they yell at my dog to leave their lawn alone. They have taken my son's hockey balls, and tennis balls and also his friends soccer ball just to teach them a lesson for playing outside. Does this woman know how awful she is really??? Taking kids toys away from them because they are what? Laughing and playing too loudly? She's for real folks I guarantee it. To top it off, she constantly goes to the nanny and tells him that she wants to talk to me and puts him in the middle, and he freaks out everytime like she is the one putting you in the middle dummy. I told the nanny to leave things alone.
This week, has been especially hard. I came home from work one night, and there was a note from the nanny, that he wanted to talk to me. I have told him many times to be present with the kids and go with them to the park, and to stay off of his phone, and to cook and clean. He does none of it. I've repeated myself time and time again and he continues to sleep all day while my kids make their own breakfest lunch and sometimes dinner. I am not happy. So, I go downstairs to speak to him at 0400 hours the other night. He informs me that he has already notified the agency that he is leaving ASAP. I said what? Like I couldn't believe it. You're leaving why? You know what he says? "I can't handle your son's temper tantrums, and quite frankly he scares me and I do not want to be responsible for him killing himself." The look on my face was are you kidding me?
Let's just look at this for a moment here. Everyone leaves us. And I mean everyone. And they leave becuase of one thing.....Jacob. They can't handle him. He's autistic everyone. NEWS FLASH!!! My son is AUTISTIC! Wow , like no one knew that for a second. CMON. We have sitters or nannies who give up on us rather then be firm and loving with my son. My daughter is easy, but Jacob yes is a handful. He needs constant supervision, and honestly this nanny wasn't giving it anyways. I told him thats fine, but its pretty awful of you to just tell me you've made your decision before you even discussed it with me. That was pretty cowardly to be honest with you. I said I welcomed you into my home, changed things just for you, and this is what I get in return?? Someone who just gives up. Theres the door then. I don't need someone to give up on all of us.
Did I happen to mention that during all of this my amazing boyfriend Johnson has been right beside me? We met at soccer, and he is an amazing man, hes smart, funny, and he is so sweet to me. He treats me like an absolute Queen, and I do love him. He's been my rock this entire time that all of this crap has been happening and I am truly blessed to be with him. He has a son too, that has some special needs so he gets it, and told me he's not going anywhere and none of this scares him. Thank you God and the Creator for sending him. He is awesome!
The nanny is leaving as soon as possible, and I wish he could go tomorrow, it is so not healthy to be around him for us since he is non existent anyways in our lives now. As for the ENN issue, Johnson went over tonight and spoke to her daughter, and she basically raised her voice to him, which he did not like, and she complained about my dog, my kids, and them drawing on the driveways with chalk. Yes again folks she is for real. And then she started making comments about me being a police officer and Johnson stopped her dead in her tracks. I am not going to ever go over there and speak to her ever. She has proven she HATES my kids and my dog so the farther away I am from here the better. We have planned to move from here, and find a bigger house so we can all fit and have a nice big backyard for the dog and the kids. I notified my landlord, and I told him not to rent to anyone who has kids because they will get pushed out as well.
As for Jacob, we changed his medication and got him another assessment, which was an emergency appointment at CHEO, and I missed a paid duty, and called the paid duty office to let them know and you guess what? I still got suspended for two months, so now I cannot even work overtime to make some extra cash.....that's a whole another story for another day.
And me? I'm doing great, and still taking medications and going to counselling to keep myself sane, and not a freakout session. And Johnson is very supportive to me so I cannot complain about that. Wish me luck tomorrow, we are looking at a house, and we may have to move back to Orleans for it. We shall see.
Always praying for my sanity,
Momma Bear
I took my time off for the 6 months that I needed to get my son and myseld squared away. I came back to work refreshed and ready to fight crime again. The new nanny came and the first few weeks were pretty good. And then, I started to notice how extremely lazy he was. It was like he needed to be on the phone calling someone or playing some game all the time, and he wouldn't cook or clean anything. Then he comes to me and asks me if I could make sure that the cats and the dog do not come downstairs to "his" area because he doesn't like animal hair. WHAT? Seriously? So, I oblige him becuase I know it must be hard for him to be in another country with strange people, so ok. I moved the cat litter boxes to the upstairs bathroom, and make sure that the kids do not go downstairs and play, and buy him a brand new dresser, and nightstand and a lamp and some rugs to make him feel more comfortable.
Fast forward to a month ago, and I am at work. He messages me, and says that things are out of hand at home and if I could come home and deal with it. IM AT WORK. I said I cannot, and he asked me if I could talk to Jacob because he wasn't listening to him. Ok, so I do. Jacob can be very difficult at times and we all know that. A few days later, Jake and Bug are at the park and the neighbourhood bully decides it would be a good idea to chase both of my kids around and then whip my daughter in his legs with a large stick. Well, my super shy and quiet daughter decided to protect herself and her little brother, and kicked the bully right in the FACE!!! Holy man, I was like WHOA. So they both come home crying, and I was getting ready to go to bed for day shift the next day. I ended up having to call my own Police Department about make a damn report for this bully. I don't really know if I like my neighbourhood after that. So, the report goes in, and now this kid has a start to a long and lenghty battle with my department. One issue, but yet so many more when I am at work.
A few days later, Jacob has a complete and total meltdown, and trashes his bedroom, along with all of his toys, and then throws some toys at the nanny, breaking his glasses, and then decides that he is going to kill himself. So he takes the screen off of the window, and opens it, climbs into it, and swings his legs out of the window, and tells the nanny hes going to kill himself. The nanny freaks out and calls me so I have to, not only do my job, but also talk my 7 year old off of the preverbial ledge so he wont throw himself off of the window. Who is watching my child!??? I race home and speak to Jake, who by this point doesn't even remember why he mad was in the first place. My heart was beating so hard out of my chest and I was so angry, and I asked the nanny what was happening, his answer was? He didn't know why he was so mad.
OH MY GOD. Really?????
Coupled with the fact that Jacob has tried twice more to throw himself out of the window while I was at work, and the fact that I came home from work once and the kids were at a park they are not allowed at and the nanny is downstairs sleeping, I had just about enough of this guy. '
Enter nasty neighbour issue. My elderly neighbour, who I have never had any issues with before this summer, has started to constantly complain about my dog, and my children. HOLY MAN, when it rains it pours. So, elderly nasty neighbour or ENN for short, called my landlord and complained to him that my dog was pooping on her lawn. We have a shared front lawn, and I have my hakf and she has hers. Well, we clean up after our dog. All the time. She complained to him, and then he calls me, (DID I mention that I was sleeping from afternoon shift at this point???) and he goes off about the issues. I told him she never came to me to speak to me about things and that she even yelled at not only my kids, but my mother and my nanny all in one weekend. She's angry and crusty. So my landlord tells me to avoid her and not to let the dog poop on the lawn. well, Sherlock. How am I supposed to let my dog out the backyard when I have to go downstairs to the "non animal hair allowed area" and let my dog go to the washroom???? This is maddening now. I have always had this issue with the basement but now its even worse with ENN stupidty and the nanny being a baby.
GOOD LORD. I wanna scream.
I ignore the ENN, and her crusty daughter. They glare at me anytime we are outside with the kids, and they yell at my dog to leave their lawn alone. They have taken my son's hockey balls, and tennis balls and also his friends soccer ball just to teach them a lesson for playing outside. Does this woman know how awful she is really??? Taking kids toys away from them because they are what? Laughing and playing too loudly? She's for real folks I guarantee it. To top it off, she constantly goes to the nanny and tells him that she wants to talk to me and puts him in the middle, and he freaks out everytime like she is the one putting you in the middle dummy. I told the nanny to leave things alone.
This week, has been especially hard. I came home from work one night, and there was a note from the nanny, that he wanted to talk to me. I have told him many times to be present with the kids and go with them to the park, and to stay off of his phone, and to cook and clean. He does none of it. I've repeated myself time and time again and he continues to sleep all day while my kids make their own breakfest lunch and sometimes dinner. I am not happy. So, I go downstairs to speak to him at 0400 hours the other night. He informs me that he has already notified the agency that he is leaving ASAP. I said what? Like I couldn't believe it. You're leaving why? You know what he says? "I can't handle your son's temper tantrums, and quite frankly he scares me and I do not want to be responsible for him killing himself." The look on my face was are you kidding me?
Let's just look at this for a moment here. Everyone leaves us. And I mean everyone. And they leave becuase of one thing.....Jacob. They can't handle him. He's autistic everyone. NEWS FLASH!!! My son is AUTISTIC! Wow , like no one knew that for a second. CMON. We have sitters or nannies who give up on us rather then be firm and loving with my son. My daughter is easy, but Jacob yes is a handful. He needs constant supervision, and honestly this nanny wasn't giving it anyways. I told him thats fine, but its pretty awful of you to just tell me you've made your decision before you even discussed it with me. That was pretty cowardly to be honest with you. I said I welcomed you into my home, changed things just for you, and this is what I get in return?? Someone who just gives up. Theres the door then. I don't need someone to give up on all of us.
Did I happen to mention that during all of this my amazing boyfriend Johnson has been right beside me? We met at soccer, and he is an amazing man, hes smart, funny, and he is so sweet to me. He treats me like an absolute Queen, and I do love him. He's been my rock this entire time that all of this crap has been happening and I am truly blessed to be with him. He has a son too, that has some special needs so he gets it, and told me he's not going anywhere and none of this scares him. Thank you God and the Creator for sending him. He is awesome!
The nanny is leaving as soon as possible, and I wish he could go tomorrow, it is so not healthy to be around him for us since he is non existent anyways in our lives now. As for the ENN issue, Johnson went over tonight and spoke to her daughter, and she basically raised her voice to him, which he did not like, and she complained about my dog, my kids, and them drawing on the driveways with chalk. Yes again folks she is for real. And then she started making comments about me being a police officer and Johnson stopped her dead in her tracks. I am not going to ever go over there and speak to her ever. She has proven she HATES my kids and my dog so the farther away I am from here the better. We have planned to move from here, and find a bigger house so we can all fit and have a nice big backyard for the dog and the kids. I notified my landlord, and I told him not to rent to anyone who has kids because they will get pushed out as well.
As for Jacob, we changed his medication and got him another assessment, which was an emergency appointment at CHEO, and I missed a paid duty, and called the paid duty office to let them know and you guess what? I still got suspended for two months, so now I cannot even work overtime to make some extra cash.....that's a whole another story for another day.
And me? I'm doing great, and still taking medications and going to counselling to keep myself sane, and not a freakout session. And Johnson is very supportive to me so I cannot complain about that. Wish me luck tomorrow, we are looking at a house, and we may have to move back to Orleans for it. We shall see.
Always praying for my sanity,
Momma Bear
You had a pretty good caregiver who knew how to handle Jake and his issues but that was sabotaged and you started writing false things about her including her leaving your children unattended at someone else's home which is a BOLD FACE LIE, so no people don't leave you just have no appreciation for the work that she put in and how she turned her life upside down to accommodate you and your children.
ReplyDeleteThose children were well taken care of and well behaved. She went above and beyond for them and you. She became their caregiver and this allowed you the opportunity to have a life. They practically lived with her so stop telling people fairy tales about always being left. You are only now JUST realizing what you had and having to deal with the fall out of not having a qualified and certified caregiver for your kids. For their sake and their sake alone I hope you do find someone qualified to take care of him he is a good kid.